Gender Fluid.

Life is ongoing movement. Things change, circumstance change, people mutate, evolve.

Recently I have come to accept myself has gender fluid. Fashion has always been as important aspect of my personality.

During my teen years I mostly used what society identifies as boys’ clothes. Baggy shirts, shorts, tennis shoes ALWAYS. For years I didn’t wear anything remotely feminine, dresses or skirts. Always wore dark clothes.

Then in my twenties I started to feel more confident and I opened up to my feminine side. I started wearing dresses and skirts. But I also realised that it was office appropriate to use shirts and full suits, blazers and reflect a more male look.

I think my physical appearance also helped because I believe I look good in any gender, in a male or female look.

I had always been interested in androgynous people like Brian Molko, Tilda Swinton, Annie Lennox, so my ambivalence made sense to me.

And so since then, there are days I feel more masculine and so I wear a blazer and pointy shoes. There are days I feel more feminine and I wear dresses and high heels. And there are days I don’t feel inclined to any specific side and I just want to be neutral, consequently androgynous (don’t worry, it’s not that time consuming in the morning). This swinging from one side to the other, like a pendulum, feels natural to me.  Every day I feel more and more comfortable with how I am and how I look.

For years I had ignorant people telling me that fashion was superfluous, and for years I was reluctant in reflecting my interest in fashion because there were more concerning things going around the world, to be talking about nail polish trends.

But as I grew older and I learned more and more about myself I realised that fashion, like anything else, can be superfluous. Everything has a positive side and a negative side, depends on how you want to look at it. At the end of the day, fashion (not clothing) is not necessary for our survival, yet it can be a huge tool in expressing ourselves, throughout our lives.

If wearing a yellow suit makes me happy, I will wear it. It doesn’t matter to me, if it was designed for a woman or a man. And wearing a yellow suit doesn’t make me a superfluous person, not concerned about world hunger. It makes a person that likes yellow suits.

People, issues, things, have more content that we sometimes assume. Everything is multidimensional. A model can do NY fashion week and have a political science degree. Buying a new pair of tennis may not be needed, but makes you happy walking home, when you had a terrible day at work.

Fashion is a tool for me to express myself. Colours and textures are tools I enjoy using, touching on my day to day, to enrich my experience on this planet.

I think that what you wear doesn’t define you, but it can assist you reflecting your true self. And above all BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF, that helps too. 🙂