OTT

Hello humans,

Tell me the truth, when you browse through the internet and you’re looking for style inspo, aspirational lifestyle etc, how many times do you actually think “I could wear that”?

This rarely happens to me, that is why I follow only a few blogs about style & fashion. Majority of things online are so OTT for me. I tend to follow very specific people, I feel that they are authentic and real about their styles and lifestyle.

Majority of fashion influencers seem to have an OTT style, because they believe this is the only way they have to catch attention throughout this ocean of influencers, that they need to stand out, always and constantly. 

Many of us simply can’t wear those clothes because we have a “serious” job and our boss would freak out if we showed up with rainbow hair for that huge presentation.

Or we have a job that requires direct contact with customers and so we have to reflect the brand/business brand, before our own style. 

Yet we waste hours of our life watching these influencers, many times  buying the things they advertise and then we don’t use it. We don’t wear it because we are scared of calling attention to ourselves, because we are waiting for a special occasion, because we want to lose some weight before putting it on. And so, we carry on lying to ourselves.

I don’t believe we have to be OTT 100% of the time. I think sometimes in life it is good to stand out and show your “true colours”, but many others it is good just to relax, stay back.

If you are looking for your own style, first of all you need to know yourself, otherwise you’ll end up being a bad copy of someone else. 

Secondly, you don’t have to be OTT, you need to be you! I don’t believe in extreme changes. Example, if you feel you wear a lot of baggy clothes and you would like to wear something more fitting, don’t go and buy a bodycon dress. No! If you wear it and you’re not used to it, you’ll feel so uncomfortable and self-aware, you won’t wear it a 2nd time and that is money wasted.

You need to ease into more shaping clothes slowly, initially buy a smaller top. Try different colours and then with time you can buy something smaller and smaller and one day without you even noticing you’re wearing the type of clothing you always wanted.

I believe we have to be honest and realistic with ourselves “Can I wear that piece of clothing? Will it suit my body? Is it appropriate for work or can I only wear it on weekends? Will that colour work with my skin colour?”

Wearing stuff because it is a trend on Tiktok, that then makes us super self-aware and self conscious, it will take away the joy from us and the experience we’re having. All we’ll think is that we want to go home and change clothes asap.

Everyone is brave in their own way, you just need to find out how far you can go (at a time) and still feel good with yourself. I share with you my truth.

My name is Franca and this is personal.